There's this guy that's been coming in to work for the last few months. He always takes the time to chat with me and flirt a little. The last time he was in he said, "Do you have a husband or anyone I need to know about before I take this any further?" I responded, "No. No husband. *smile*" I hadn't seen him in over a month when he came in this past Saturday. I decided to write him a note and slip it to him as we chatted. I figured if I put it out there I'd find out rather quickly whether or not he was really interested. On the note I wrote, "Shhh!!! Katina ***-****" He called that evening and invited me to have a drink with him once I was off work.
As we talked that night he told me he had wanted to ask for my phone number, but was nervous. He was very kind, funny, intelligent, a good kisser, and a gentleman. Since we were kind of snuggling I turned my head to look at him and just decided to move in for the kiss. He didn't fight it, but didn't push the issue either. As we parted I was a bit surprised he didn't offer to walk me to my car ... a little irritated actually. Anyway, I blew it off making excuses for him that he was nervous and/or blaming it on him being raised an only child.
Yesterday he called.
We chit-chatted for a little while, he thanked me for getting together with him, said he had a good time, and then said, "Give me a call some time." To which I replied, "Well thanks, but I probably won't." He said, "Well that wasn't very inviting." To which I said, "The way I look at it, if a guy wants to talk to you, they're going to call. As women, we have about a thousand things running through our minds all the time so we usually don't call. It's not that we don't think about you, we just don't call." He said, "Oh. Okay."
He had mentioned he might attempt to reschedule his airline ticket and fly out today to visit his parents for the holiday. In hind site I think my comment may have come off as callused or bitchy and I certainly didn't mean for it to. I figure I can't call him now, even if I wanted to because I said I wouldn't. I hope to hear from him again.
During our telephone conversation he also said, "I hope I wasn't a jerk the other night." I said, "How would you have been a jerk?" To which he replied, "Well I didn't think I was, I just hope you didn't." I kind of hoped he would bring up not walking me to my car, we could laugh about it, and then move on. He didn't.
Okay ... so, yes, I'm going to ask the never-ending female question: Do you think he'll call? It's kind of funny because the last many, many dates I've had I just hoped they wouldn't call and when they did, I didn't answer or return their calls. Finally a date that wasn't horrible. I rather enjoyed myself. What does his not walking me to my car indicate to you? If I do hear from him and we get together again, I most certainly will say something when we get ready to part for the evening ... likely sarcastically ... "Are you going to walk me to my car this time? *smirk*
Why am I worried about this? I always strive for honesty, but never purposely try to hurt someone's feelings or be mean.
Ladies? Gentlemen?
Following is a summary from a few friends I've spoken with about this:
1 The fact that he didn't walk you to your car is a "MASSIVE" warning sign.
2 Give him another chance.
3 Give him another chance.
4 Don't call him. He'll call.
