Manipulative people make me crazy! As a matter of fact they make many of us crazy, including themselves because they already are and just don't realize it! People who act this way should be bitch-slapped and told to knock it the hell off, stop the whining, the pity party, the madness, and give being a grown up a real shot! People who hurt others for the sole purpose of making themselves feel better really should be isolated to a small island so they can just hurt each other.
Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder:
Common Signs of PAPD:
Ambiguity
Avoiding responsibility by claiming forgetfulness
Blaming others
Chronic lateness and forgetfulness
Complaining
Does not express hostility or anger openly
Fear of dependency
Fear of intimacy
Fosters chaos
Intentional inefficiency
Making excuses
Obstructionism
Procrastination
Resentment
Resists suggestions from others
Sarcasm
Sullenness
When these behaviors are part of a person's personality style, repercussions are usually not immediate, but instead accumulate over time as the individuals affected by the person come to recognize the disavowed aggression coming from that person.
People with this personality style are often quite unconscious of their impact on others, and thus may be genuinely dismayed when held to account for the inconvenience or discomfort caused by their passive-aggressive behaviors. In that context, there is a failure to see how they might have provoked a negative response, so they feel misunderstood, held to unreasonable standards, and/or put upon.
These individuals characteristically procrastinate, find excuses for delays, and find fault with those on whom they depend; yet they refuse to extricate themselves from the dependent relationships. They usually lack assertiveness and are not direct about their own needs and wishes. They fail to ask needed questions about what is expected of them and may become anxious when forced to succeed or when their usual defense of turning anger against themselves is removed.
In interpersonal relationships, these people attempt to manipulate themselves into a position of dependence, but others experience this passive, self-detrimental behavior as punitive and manipulative. Friends may become enmeshed in trying to assuage many claims of unjust treatment. The close relationships of people with PAPD are rarely tranquil or happy.
Because these individuals are bound to their resentment more closely than to their satisfaction, they may never even formulate goals for finding enjoyment in life. People with this disorder lack self-confidence and are typically pessimistic about the future.
These individuals claim that others unfairly accuse them, rather than owning up to their misdeeds. To remain above reproach, they set themselves up as the apparently hapless, innocent victim of excessive demands.
These individuals fabricate excuses for not fulfilling promises. As a way of withholding information, affirmation, or love they may choose to make up a story rather than give you a straight answer.
The most infuriating and inconsiderate traits is the inability to arrive on time. By keeping you waiting, they set the ground rules of the relationship. Selective forgetting is used only when they want to avoid an obligation.
These individuals are the masters of ambiguity, mixed messages. and sitting on fences. When they tell you something, you may still walk away wondering if the actually said yes or no.
Feeling put upon when they are unable to live up to their promises or obligations, they retreat from pressures around them and sulk, pout, and withdraw.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggressive_behavior
http://www.passiveaggressive.homestead.com/PATraits.html
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